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Menopause Symptoms

March 7, 2023 by Ellen

As you get older, your body produces less of the hormones estrogen and progesterone, resulting in irregular periods before you eventually stop getting them. Along with that comes a long list of other symptoms signaling the body’s transition through menopause. The physical symptoms are bad, the mental symptoms are horrendous.

Physical Menopause symptoms

  • Irregular periods or skipping periods
  • Periods that are heavier or lighter than usual
  • hot flashes (see hot flash relief products)
  • night sweats
  • bladder leakage
  • dry skin
  • vaginal dryness
  • sex pain
  • insomnia/sleeplessness
  • heart palpitations
  • extreme fatigue
  • adrenaline rushes
  • restlessness
  • headaches
  • migraines
  • cramps
  • bloating
  • nausea
  • vomiting
  • acid reflux
  • smell sensitivity
  • ringing in ears
  • weight loss
  • weight gain
  • buzzing/vibrations
  • internal tremors
  • shaking
  • dry eyes
  • dry mouth
  • vertigo
  • back pain
  • joint pain
  • shoulder pain
  • sinus back-drip
  • breast tenderness

Mental menopause symptoms

  • anxiety
  • irritability
  • anger and rage
  • panic attacks
  • mortality issues
  • feeling like you’re going crazy
  • mood swings
  • health anxiety
  • brain fog
  • memory lapses
  • procrastination
  • anti-socialness
  • depression
  • loss of appetite

Now I’m not a doctor or a health expert. I am just someone who has gone through almost all of these symptoms. Everyone is different and you may experience some, all or more symptoms than listed here. Talk to your doctor. If they don’t listen or brush off your concerns, find one who will listen. I went through that and have since found a new doctor who is absolutely wonderful with these issues.

Filed Under: Symptoms

Hot Flash Facts

March 4, 2023 by Ellen

Hot Flashes and Night Sweats are common symptoms of menopause and perimenopause. While it is not exactly clear what causes hot flashes and you can’t really prevent hot flashes, if you pay attention to your hot flash triggers, you can possibly reduce the frequency and severity of your hot flashes. Thankfully, there are also Hot Flash Relief products that can help make your hot flashes less miserable.

What is a Hot Flash?

A hot flash is a sudden feeling of intense heat coming from inside you that spreads up your body. They can typically last anywhere from 30 seconds to about 10 minutes.

What does a hot flash feel like?

For me, I would get chills first, so I would pull up my collar or put on a sweater. Then I would get tingly, my heart would race a little, and I start to feel the heat creeping up my body. And I start to warm up, and get warmer, and warmer, and warmer and get this runaway warmth until I was flushed and sweaty and taking the layers off one by one. Of course once the sensation passed, the dampness from the lingering sweat would cause me to get the chills again, and the cycle would start all over.

How often do hot flashes happen?

Hot flashes start for most women in their 40s as they begin perimenopause. The frequency of hot flashes vary from woman to woman. Some women experience multiple hot flashes per hour, while others can go days in between.

How many years do hot flashes last?

There is no definitive answer to that question, as every woman is different (that answer didn’t help). Hot flashes start for most women in their 40s as they begin perimenopause. For a lot of women, hot flashes stop for the most part once they reach menopause. Some women have hot flashes for 2 years, some for 5 years, and some for 10 years or more, hopefully at a decreased intensity level.

Why do hot flashes happen?

Hot Flashes are thought to be caused by fluctuating estrogen levels, which are the hormones produced by your ovaries. During Perimenopause, your ovaries gradually stop working and begin producing less hormones. The rising and falling of estrogen levels can cause all sorts of symptoms, including the hot flashes and night sweats associated with menopause.

What can trigger hot flashes?

Common dietary hot flash triggers are caffeine, alcohol, hot beverages, red wine and spicy foods. Other hot flash triggers can include hot weather, heat or cold, stress, anxiety, smoking, tight or heavy clothing (or any clothing), exercise, hot hair styling appliances, and more.

Why are hot flashes worse at night?

For many women, hot flashes tend to get worse at night, causing you to wake up with your pajamas and sheets soaking wet, hence the term “Night Sweats”. Hormone levels tend to swing more drastically at night than during the day, which which can cause more intense hot flashes.

Can I prevent hot flashes at night (night sweats)?

Your diet during the day and evening can influence the frequency and severity of your hot flashes. You may find that limiting the amount of caffeine, spicy foods, and alcohol in the evening may help to reduce the frequency and severity of your overnight hot flashes and night sweats.

Environmental and lifestyle changes can help to reduce hot flashes and night sweats to help you sleep better at night, such as:

  • Keep your bedroom cool,
  • Wear moisture wicking pajamas,
  • Sleep on moisture-wicking sheets
  • Use cooling pillow cases
Tips for reducing hot flashes

You may not be able to prevent hot flashes, but adjusting your lifestyle to avoiding hot flash triggers can help to reduce the frequency of hot flashes. There are also Hot Flash Relief products that can help make them less miserable.

Lifestyle adjustments for mitigating hot flashes

  • Pay attention to what causes your hot flashes and avoid those triggers.
  • Dress in layers that can easily be added and removed.
  • Carry a portable fan to keep cool.
  • Relax – Stress can trigger hot flashes. Try a stress relief activity or technique.
  • Stay hydrated and eat healthy.
  • Alcohol, spicy foods, and caffeine can trigger hot flashes
  • Avoid smoking, as it is considered to be a hot flash trigger.
  • Hot flash relief products can help.

Talk to your doctor during your checkups about what is going on with your perimenopause and menopause journey. They can determine whether these symptoms and issues are a normal part of going through your changes or if they are a sign of some other underlying condition. If your Doctor doesn’t listen to your concerns, find a doctor who will. Menopause is real, and it’s hard enough to find support and someone who understands what you are going through. The more they know about what you are dealing with, the more they can help.

Filed Under: Symptoms

Sneeze-Pee and Bladder Leaks

March 3, 2023 by Ellen

Congrats! You’ve made it through the hell that is peri-menopause and pre-menopause. No more periods! Yay!!! And then one day…

ah, ah, ah-CHOO… whoops?

What was that? Did I just pee a little? Yikes! You laugh, change your underwear, and call Mom. And she says “yup, there’s that too”. Oh joy!

So what is going on?

When your ovaries stop producing Estrogen, your body changes in many ways. Vaginal tissue becomes less elastic, pelvic muscles weaken, and the urethra lining begins to thin, all of which may make you more prone to bladder leakage. (These are not the only reasons, so you may want to speak to your doctor if this becomes a problem for you)

If you are just dealing with menopause and age related bladder control issues (as opposed to a medical problem), there are some products and lifestyle changes to help you cope…

Tighten your pelvic muscles. You can try doing Kegel Exercises, which is tightening and releasing of the pelvic floor muscles.

Pay attention to what and when you drink. Coffee, tea, soda, and alcohol may contribute to bladder control issues. Drinking too much later in the day may make you have to get up to pee more at night.

Helpful Menopause Symptom Relief Products for Bladder Leakage and Incontinence

Vaginal Moisturizer

A vaginal moisturizer can help with feminine intimate dryness, redness, irritation, and burning. My doctor recommended Luvena Vaginal Moisturizer and Lubricant – Menopause support for Women.

Underwear for incontinence or leaks

Always Discreet Boutique Underwear is beautifully designed incontinence underwear made of silky-soft fabric with delicate lacy prints, unlike adult diapers. Super-absorbent, OdorLock, and Double LeakGuards. Ships discreetly.

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These Innersy Period Panties don’t take the place of liners, but are protective enough to buy you time to get situated without embarrassment after an occasional sneeze-pee or leakage. And they are very comfortable and cute.

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Pads and Pantyliners for bladder leaks

Poise Ultra Thin Moderate Incontinence Pads for Women are expertly designed for bladder leakage and are 50% thinner.

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Always Discreet Incontinence Pads offer secure protection you barely feel stay comfortably in place.

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When you Gotta Go, You Gotta Go!

Of course, every so often an emergency situation may come up. Whether it’s a long car ride, a day spent outdoors or other activity or circumstance that maybe keeps you farther than comfortable from a decent bathroom. Here are some relief products that may help…

SHEWEE Extreme Reusable Pee Funnel – The Original Female Urination Device. Discreetly pee wherever, without removing your clothing or underwear.

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Silicone Female Urination Device. When you gotta go, you gotta go! Discreetly pee outdoors. Comes with a portable pouch.

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Emergency Panties kit

Emergency Panties Include 4 Items: Seamless Underwear, Pantyliner, Fresh Wipe & WashBag – Incontinence Underwear Women’s Toiletry by Panty Fresh

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Filed Under: Shop for Relief, Symptoms

Mortality issues in menopause

March 1, 2023 by Ellen

That damn hourglass!

“I’ll never be 5 again”, I said crying. Mom thought it was cute. I did not.

Maybe I saw “5” at the bottom of the hourglass getting slowly covered by the sands of time.

Back when I was a kid in summer camp, I spent the night in the infirmary sick with a fever and I had these strange mortality nightmares. I don’t recall the specifics, just a feeling in my gut of an impending something… a shadow lurking just out of sight… waiting. My young mind at the time couldn’t interpret the feeling, but stored it away.

Fast forward to my recent battle with the flu (or COVID). Only this time combine the fever nightmares with menopausal anxiety and I manage to develop a new menopausal symptom (for me) – Oudenophobia – the fear of not existing.

I’m not talking about aging or the process of dying. I’m referring to the nothingness after that. The switch turning off. The little red light going out. POOF! No more me. Nothing. Nada. The End…. even as I type this it’s weirding me out.

I can’t even fathom the thought of not existing anymore. I mentioned it to a friend, who stated so surely, “why does it matter, you won’t even know.” That didn’t make me feel any better, but I was impressed as to how she could just shrug it off. The thought of ceasing to exist didn’t seem to bother her at all. She does have a lot on her plate right now, a very busy life. Maybe I just need some more worries to occupy my mind. Yeah, like I need that. Maybe that’s where some menopausal anxiety comes from. Thinking about getting closer to death can be terrifying, so we come up with all of these other worries to fill our heads so we don’t think about the big one. Nah! I’m not buying it. That fear comes from the pit of my stomach, not my head.

“Death is nothing to fear because as long as we exist, death is not present, and when death comes, we no longer exist.”

– Epicurus

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